I was a people pleaser for many years (and unaware of this problem). Generally speaking, my desire for people-pleasing has become less than before (thanks to months of going to therapy sessions), although there are times when it takes time for me to become aware of it.
Sometimes it can be very subtle. You might not be able to detect it until you reverse engineer a decision as to why you said yes — often it takes three separate rounds/levels of Why to figure it out.
Identifying where it is doing you a disservice is the hardest part.
You can still be a nice, generous and agreeable person without being an inveterate people-pleaser at the expense of your finite time.
I was a people pleaser for many years (and unaware of this problem). Generally speaking, my desire for people-pleasing has become less than before (thanks to months of going to therapy sessions), although there are times when it takes time for me to become aware of it.
Sometimes it can be very subtle. You might not be able to detect it until you reverse engineer a decision as to why you said yes — often it takes three separate rounds/levels of Why to figure it out.
Identifying where it is doing you a disservice is the hardest part.
You can still be a nice, generous and agreeable person without being an inveterate people-pleaser at the expense of your finite time.
Thanks for your reply, Jason. Can you explain the three levels of "why"?
That is Day #5 ☺️
Oh. Great. I look forward to that