“People think focus means saying yes to the thing you've got to focus on. But that's not what it means at all: It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully.
I'm actually as proud of the things we haven't done as the things we have done. Innovation is saying no to 1000 things.”
~ Steve Jobs
Saying NO is easier for some people than others.
It is also easier to say to some people than others.
I'm anticipating a lot of comments for this one like:
"But I can't say NO to my X— I'll get Y!"
X = Boss, Wife, Husband, Kids, Aunt, Patreon Patrons, Russian handlers
Y = Fired, Divorced, Yelled at, Squealed at, Berated, Lambasted, Tazed
It's important to know that I'm going to cover the complicated nature of saying NO to the different people in your life to whom you have various obligations. Hold off on those comments for the moment; I'm going to cover these in the coming days.
For today only, let's start small. Baby steps.
For today, I just need you to practice saying NO to one thing.
It doesn't have to be a big thing; you don't need to tell your boss you won't be filing that report by 3pm. It can be as small as saying NO to a second round of drinks. (It's now an election year so I know that's tough) but just try it to see how it feels for your mind. Feel how it sounds coming out of your mouth.
Say it quietly to yourself (“no.”)
Believe me when I say the people you say NO to won't be half as offended as you're expecting them to be in your head. Try it. Just once.
Report back. Tell me how you went in the comments.
- Jason
PS. If you're trying to be hilarious and respond with NO, I won't be angry.
I’m saying no to local redundant elections coverage because for once I voted early (we have mail-in) and it’s a done deal now. No last minute trip before the deadline either. Did all pertinent research too.
Yes to precious democracy!
I wanna permenantly say "No" to afternoon sleep.
(Most days, i'm able to resist not sleeping in the afternoon, but some days i can't).